Day 4: STOP verbal/emotional abuse

Let’s start by saying today is a better day. 🙂 But the struggle is still very real and the fight is still on.

  1. Terrorism: to threaten a child or someone who is dear to him with physical violence, abandonment or death, to threaten to destroy the child’s possessions, to place him in chaotic or dangerous situations, to define strict and unreasonable expectations and to threaten him with punishment if he does not comply. Threatening to harm you, your pet or people you care about. Threatening to have children taken away.
  2. Exposure to domestic violence: to expose a child to violent words and acts between his parents.
  3. Making the child/teen feel responsible for the mother’s feelings.
  4. Threatening them with vague, unstated consequences.

Examples:  This one was used once already but I will use again because it was definitely one that our kid remember after their mom tried to keep them out of state, as my other half drove up to where they were with a Sherriff, their mother was angry and while loading the kids baggage in vehicle she remarked “I’m going to shoot your dad.  He will get what he deserves”

About the new wife “Why don’t you tell your wife to come up her to my house I have something for her..hahahahaha!”

At a soccer game while carrying her then 6 year old son the mother began trying to push the step-mother while cursing at her, as dad says “Are you really going to do this in front of your kids?” she responds “I sure am I can you what the F**k I want” wife and dad ask her go away and move away themselves.  A few minutes later she yanks the daughter by arm and tells step-mom “These are my kids stop trying to act like they are yours you poor excuse for a mom.” Then goes behind dad and pushes him. Children embarrassed in public and in front of family–this would be a part of #2

I’m baffled how things like this can continue to happen with no consequences.  Please help educate and pass on the word.  Verbal/emotional abuse is still abuse!!!


question of faith

I may not go to a church with a steeple as I have lots of faith and worship in the sanction of my own home.  I have gone threw life being raised as a catholic (never understanding that religion or agreeing with it) to not believing in anything at all to finding God and my own faith to become a Christian, but yet I get ridiculed and put down by some Christians as bad or unbelieving because I do not go to a church.  I have my own convictions and reasons and those people are a prime example of why I choose not to got a place of gathering to be put on a stand and judged.  God is my only judge.

I say this with thought on people that also carry anger. For instance, every time my other half’s ex-wife does not get her way she tends to tell him things such as “You are an evil person” “You need Jesus” “God will give you what you deserve”.  Funny thing is she is the blame for all the wrong in our children’s lives and she judges with out a single thought of looking in the mirror at her wrongs.  Now I know you are probably saying then why I am doing the same. I admit to all my faults and I can apologize with out using anybody’s name to try and make myself feel better.  I have wrong many time, but I have faith and I also have the pride to apologize for forgiveness form those I have ever wrong; not for them, not for me, but for my savior.

I guess overall I would like my family to be look upon for what we are, which is strong, happy, faithful, decent, loving people in our home and to other and not be judged for things that are not understood or unknown in my home.

Romans 1:17

 17 For in the gospel a righteousness from God is revealed, a righteousness that is by faith from first to last, just as it is written: “The righteous will live by faith.”