Day 3: STOP verbal/emotional abuse

Ok so day is day 3 on the fight against verbal/emotional abuse.

Today I am a bit sad for my older step-son, he broke my heart.  Even though he didn’t say much about the situation his facial expression and silence made a huge impact on my heart.

Example:  So today my example is paraphrasing from a conversation between him and his biological mother; due to his silence.

A few weeks back she told him he was a disappointment and elaborated on it, so today after him no speaking to her he showed me text conversation between them.  He reiterated to her how she told him he was a disappointment and she never once apologized or took back.  All she did was tell him in a nut shell that what she tells him is true and if the truth hurts he needs to change his ways and suck it up.  She also told him she tells him things because of things she hears about him and that it must be truth if others are speaking of it.

Now let me tell you a bit of my step-son:  he is an amazingly smart kid on his way to a big university in which he earned on his own and graduated as high school senior with honors.  He works two jobs, plays soccer for pleasure, and is going and has played soccer for school (he is great at it).  He also is an average teenager that likes to have fun but never gets in trouble as he know what he wants his life to be like.

So tell me does that seem like a disappointment to you?

  1. Yelling and screaming at you.
  2. Intentionally embarrassing you in public.
  3. Using online communities or cell phones to control, intimidate or humiliate you.
  4. Blaming your actions for their unhealthy behavior. Placing undeserved blame on them.

Again I ask, please help with my fight against verbal/emotional abuse!!! Pass it on, nobody should be put down and kicked.

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2 thoughts on “Day 3: STOP verbal/emotional abuse

  1. Wooooh, had to take a step back and erase what I originally put down. Was not mature at all. Was gonna get little verbaly abusive myself there. Okay, you are a great step mother in my opinion. It may not mean much cause its just me, but you are there to whipe away those kids tears. They know they can come to you when they need support. As a mother, you don’t tell your child your disappointed in them unless they are on the wrong path and even then, that is their path. Your job is to guide them and be there if they fall. You do not know their future. Warn them of their actions and let them know there are always consequences to all action. Mother is a perfect love.

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