Today I start my week fight and recognition of verbal/emotional abuse. I have chosen this topic because it hits close to home. As I am a survivor of abuse of all sorts and one was verbal/emotional abuse. Now that I have overcome all my battles I have to stand silent as I am a step-mom of 3 great kids, as we have custody of them, that endure the abuse from their mother almost weekly/monthly.
It breaks my heart every time I have to hear them endure it, and I can do nothing. I breaks me even more when this person gets away with it because “she is their birth mom”, “she’s the adult”, “she’s a female”, “she’s always been that way it’s what everybody expects of her”, and also “she’s just upset”. NONE of those excuses make it right!!!!
During this next week for so I will post types of verbal/emotional abuse and some examples, now let’s begin:
- Name-calling, belittling, swearing, insulting. Calling you names and putting you down.
- Rejecting or threatening with abandonment. Threatening to commit suicide. Threatening them specifically with rejection or abandonment.
- Threatening bodily harm. Even if you don’t act on violent threats, they may make your child fear and distrust you.
- Scapegoating or blaming.
Example: “I’m going to kill myself if I can’t have you” “I’m going to kill myself if you don’t talk to me anymore”
“I’m going to shoot your father, he will get what he deserves!” “since you can’t control her stupidity now someone else will” (this is about a girlfriend)
“You are such a disappointment”
So help me spread the word and STOP verbal/emotional abuse and help me help others educate those who are going thru it all. NOBODY deserves to be treated like a doormat for someone else’s insecurities and anger to make themselves feel better.